This picture was taken about a month after our first date. I guess I didn't want to jinx our new relationship by posing for pictures too soon. So there's no picture of us on our first date, but I do have some visual memories from that evening etched in my mind. Oh, and yes, I still own this dress and wear it occasionally. Of course, not right now being pregnant and winter. But Shawn still wears the tie and the suspenders are somewhere. Look out they might make a comeback, after he sees this picture.
I always knew there was something different about this guy from the moment we started spending time together. A difference that I liked and was intrigued with. During my freshman year at Oklahoma Christian University, I found myself worrying a lot about finding the right guy. For some reason, I sensed a little bit of that ticking clock feeling, that the "good ones" would all get snagged before I found one for myself. I went out on dates with a few guys--and some were lucky enough to get second or third dates--but they just weren't quite right for me.
The summer after my first year of college, I was preparing to go on a semester long study abroad in Japan and Australia. I didn't see myself being interested in any of the guys that were to go on this trip with me, so I made up my mind to not let myself worry about boys for the semester. Besides, I wanted to enjoy all the amazing experiences I would have in these places without worrying about impressing someone. The more I thought about this decision, the more I realized that in the past I hadn't really let God be the man in my life. At some point in my semester abroad, I made the decision to quit worrying about finding the right guy myself, but instead to let God give him to me.When I returned to OC in the spring, this peace about men continued for me as the new semester started. And wouldn't you know it, but God answered my prayer! It was actually the day before classes were to begin, that Shawn and I were both invited by mutual friends to a pizza restaurant, Cici's. I thought he seemed very nice and cute, but really we just had a good time with friends. God had already taught me to rely on Him and not get myself worked up about the possibility of a relationship with a guy, just because he was cute and talked to me. But in the weeks to come, I cautiously enjoyed a casual friendship with him. I told VERY few people that I was becoming interested in him. It was probably a month before I said anything to anyone, which was unlike me. I guess I did this because I didn't want my feelings to get in the way of God's plan for Shawn or me--even if that plan didn't have us together. Slowly, he started to show signs of being interested in me too. And it wasn't long before he asked me out on a date.
That's basically how our story began--or at least my version of it. And I'm so very thankful for the story that we've made since then--the memories and adventures together, and two fantastic kids plus one more on the way. Shawn still makes me laugh and inspires me to be a better person and child of God. I'm so thankful that God brought him into my life and for the lesson in being content that God taught me before meeting him. I know now that during that time--that lesson--God was preparing my heart for Shawn, my husband.
Twelve years later, we're a bit older looking (or should I say, more mature), but we're still very much in love. Now, don't be fooled. We've had our ups and downs like just about every married couple, but God has strengthened us and sustained our love for each other even through struggles or challenges. I'm so thankful for that. I'm also thankful for Shawn and for the family we have together. But ultimately, I'm thankful for my Heavenly Father, who blessed my life at just the right time with a wonderful man to share this family with. My cup is overflowing!
At different times in my life, I've done a better job listening and following rather than blazing the trail I think God wants for me. But I think I can confidently say I did my best listening at this time in my life. And I'm equally confident that He blessed me for that in a tremendous way. So I encourage you to listen to the Father's will for your life as well. No matter what your stage in life, He will bless you immeasurably if you're listening and following His will.
If you're still here reading this post, thanks. I knew you loved me! :)


11 comments:
Mmmmm...CiCi's. Thanks for the mushy story.
It was encouraging, inspiring, and a good reminder to patiently seek, and submit to, the Father's will.
We do love you!!! You are such an amazing friend and sister. Thanks for sharing and reminding us to be content with God's plans and his will for us.
So thankful to be a part of the adventure with you.
P.S. Love the family picture. I wonder who took that one? :-) And hopefully Shawn leaves the suspenders in hiding....
You are loved and I really like to hear stories of how couples first met. You are a wonderful Christian, wife, and mother. The church is so blessed to have you and yours here in Juneau. Love -- Kathryn
Wow, 12 years! That was fun to see that "OC days" picture of you two!
Suspenders?
Well, I've heard part of the story but not the whole thing. It was so sweet! And, yes, you do look quite a bit younger . . . I mean, less mature than you are now! But it is a good testimony to what God can do in our lives if we trust Him and put Him first. Thank you for sharing.
Eric, "mushy" really? I thought I kept it pretty calm.
And yes, Lela, you would be the talented photographer. That was the last best family photo of all four of us. I believe my cousin Karen was the photographer for the first one.
Kathryn, thank you very much.
Marilyn, just the term "OC days" makes me feel old. And that picture was even before your OC days.
Lj, yes, it's true. And Shawn wants me to tell you that he actually wears suspenders every night/day with his uniform. They help disperse the weight from his duty belt and keep his back happy.
And thanks, Amanda. Glad you enjoyed the story.
What about your first kiss? Or the proposal?? I want more. (Am I selfish or nosy? oh well)
Well, Beth. The proposal is really another story all on it's own. And the first kiss...well I don't know if I should "kiss and tell". But since we've obviously kissed a few times...the first kiss didn't happen until about a month after our first date. It was just a nice end to a great evening together, but I don't remember exactly what we did that evening, you know where we ate, etc. I just thought it was nice that he waited so long to kiss me. Sort of a sign of respect to me that he was more interested in me rather than having a physical relationship.
And I don't know if you're nosy exactly, but curious? Yes.
I've been meaning to come back and read this since you posted it. Very nice. We both hit the jackpot with our hubbies (although we're not so shabby ourselves, you know, hee hee). Congrats on 12 happy years as a "we" with your crazy man.
Love how God fills us to overflowing. Aaaahhhhh.
We're very proud of you! Love, MOM
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